Words that help, words that hinder. Actions of initiative or inaction that leads to paralysis. 

When we’re troubled or uncertain, what makes things better and what makes us fall back into cycles of negative thinking?

We’re programmed to ride the wave of our emotions, to continue patterns we’re used to without considering the many things we could do that are far more helpful to our state of mind.

Knowing the strategies which help you confront fear and uncertainty, and being cognizant of those things that don’t serve you in moments where you need clarity, is a very useful tool that we don’t normally consider. 

For example, phrases that remind me of imminent future fears, “Turning over subconscious thoughts in your mind will help them manifest in reality” do not serve me in moments of uncertainty. If I’m thinking negatively about something, the awareness of the fact that it’s more likely to happen if I’m thinking about it incessantly, is not a helpful construct. So I don’t read or listen to those things that remind me of it. In those moments, something uplifting or that gives me hope for the future, something positive, which reminds me of the potential I have inside works much better. 

Get to know the things that work for you specifically.  Remind yourself of them and don’t expect them to work for the person next to you, or your husband, or your best friend. Seek out and use the tools that work for you.  You’ll be happy you did.